Who is this MCF, anyway?
In order to grow and overcome certain personality handicaps, a person needs to first recognize what they are. Someone, possibly my mom, once said that to be loved, one must love oneself. Actually, what she used to say was “in order to have friends, you have to be a friend,” but it's a similar thought. I remember a time after taking a new job when friends of a friend would go to lunch without me whenever my friend wasn’t in. I didn't really know them that well yet except through him, and I'd sit in my cubicle when they walked by, hear them talking, wait for someone to invite me, and then be bitter about it when they didn't, thinking they didn't want me along or didn’t like me. That was psychotic. Modifying my mom's saying, I would say that in order to have friends, one must prove he exists, and make people aware of that.
It's definitely not easy, and takes a conscious effort to not make the same mistakes even after I realize some of the odd ways I relate to people, or don't relate at all. Over at Sarcasmo's, I came across something called a Johari Window. It illustrates, in four panels, various personality traits and categorizes them based on what a person may or may not know about himself, as well as the things other people may or may not know about him. It seems like an interesting exercise to pursue, especially on a blog with an audience that consists of both people who know the real MCF, and people who only know what I tell them. Being “cloaked” allows me to be very honest though, and I suspect I may convey things I don't even realize.
Below you will find a link to my window. When you click it, it will ask you to choose five or six words from a grid that apply to me. I've chosen six words of my own and, upon completion, you'll see where things overlap. In a week or so, whenever a significant number of people have clicked, I'll post the results here. It should be educational and fun, and I encourage anyone to set up a window of their own! What we learn might surprise us:
Click and tell me who I am.
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I added mine. It's pretty cool, and will be even better when more people jump in!
I like this exercise a lot. I'm putting one on Swimming in Champaign ASAP.
I had to comment on this one. It was difficult picking just five or six words to describe my perception of you, but finding the accurate meaning of the words I chose made it easier.
It would be interesting to see what your folks would choose.
Kathy
I've got my window open! Now I'm off to peak into MCF's window.
I just did it.
I don't think I could do one on myself, I'm too self-conscious. So naturally that's what everyone would put. That is, if they even responded to it. I mean, why WOULD they? Who am I to them? Why would they waste their time?
"low self-esteem" is another thing they'd put. That is, if they even DID it, but why would they?
Okay, I'll stop now.
They'd put "quitter" too.
no, really!
I contributed AND created one for myself. I think I'm going to make it a Tell It To Me Tuesday for next week.:)
I don't know you well, but I will go & choose words based on my perception so far.
I did this at another blog. It really is a neat tool.
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